Comedian Corey O’Brien On Overcoming Addiction, Escaping Homophobia, and Finding Love with Ryan Russell

Comedian Corey O’Brien has never shied away from uncomfortable conversations. Whether on stage or on social media, O’Brien’s brand is radical honesty—especially about the challenges of being an openly gay man in America’s shifting social and political landscape. In a recent interview with People Magazine, O’Brien delved into his journey of addiction recovery, his experience growing up in a conservative environment, and his relationship with former NFL player Ryan Russell, the league’s first out bisexual star.

Raised in a conservative community, O’Brien recounts the isolation and prejudice he faced as a young gay man. “They’ve made our existence political,” he told Out South Florida, reflecting on how even basic aspects of queer life are subject to public scrutiny and debate. Instead of retreating, O’Brien has made it his mission to bring honest, often confrontational, conversations to audiences that may not be accustomed to them. “If every single day I’m judged for who I am, I’m at least going to put a face to the name for all of these people that want to judge,” he said, emphasizing his commitment to visibility and dialogue.

This resolve is embodied in O’Brien’s current “Red State Tour,” where he performs stand-up in politically conservative areas across the United States. The tour, both an act of artistic defiance and bridge-building, aims to foster empathy and understanding through humor. “Going out on the road and being an out loud and queer comedian… it is an act of defiance,” he confessed, adding that he refuses to “cower and go back into the closet” despite increasing anti-LGBTQ+ rhetoric and legislation in some regions.

Twelve years ago, O’Brien entered rehab. The experience was transformative, not just for his sobriety but for his sense of self-worth. Sharing advice from his therapist, he recalled: “You’re really not that important.” At first, O’Brien bristled at the statement, but he soon understood its meaning. “The thoughts that you have about yourself and about what people think about you—they’re not thinking the same way that you’re thinking about you,” he explained. This realization helped him break free from living for others’ approval and allowed him to embrace authenticity, paving the way for both personal and professional growth.

O’Brien’s openness about his recovery journey has resonated with fans, especially those in the LGBTQ+ community, who often face higher rates of substance use and barriers to care due to stigma and discrimination. By speaking publicly about his experiences, O’Brien helps reduce shame and encourages others to seek help, reinforcing the importance of mental health and community support.

O’Brien’s relationship with Ryan Russell, the NFL’s first out bisexual player, has also brought him into the national conversation about queer representation in sports and media. The couple’s partnership began quietly, with O’Brien initially unaware of the full scope of Russell’s football career. “When they started dating, O’Brien had no idea how serious Russell’s football career was,” Out Magazine reported.

Their relationship has grown in the public eye, providing a visible, affirming example of queer love and partnership. O’Brien credits Russell’s discipline and ability to “disconnect” from work as a grounding force in their lives, something O’Brien admits he’s still learning. “He has such an amazing way of disconnecting… I don’t, but I’m trying,” O’Brien said, highlighting the balance and support they offer each other.

O’Brien’s comedy is more than entertainment; it’s a form of activism. In an era where LGBTQ+ rights remain under threat and queer visibility is sometimes met with backlash, O’Brien’s refusal to hide is both personal and political. “In today’s unfunny political climate, sharing a laugh is an act of resistance,” Boston Spirit Magazine noted, describing how O’Brien’s performances in conservative regions aim to “bridge the biggest political divides” with humor.

O’Brien himself sees his shows as opportunities to inspire audiences—both queer and straight—to see the humanity behind the headlines. “If you pay, you get a ticket to come see this very gay man, I feel like you know what you’re getting yourself into and I feel like that’s a step in the right direction,” he explained.

Reflecting on his journey, O’Brien offers simple but powerful advice: “Keep going.” His story—of overcoming addiction, escaping a hostile environment, and building a supportive relationship—serves as a beacon for those struggling with their own identities or seeking acceptance.

O’Brien’s blend of vulnerability, humor, and activism is a reminder that authenticity is a form of resistance, and that even in the face of adversity, queer joy and love can thrive.

For more on Corey O’Brien’s work and upcoming tour dates, follow him on Instagram (@corey_obrien) or visit his official website.